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Bank Account - Choice

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 10:43:00 +0000

This is AWESOME ... something we should all remember.

A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.

As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.

I love it,' he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

Mr. Jones, you haven't seen the room; just wait.'

'That doesn't have anything to do with it,' he replied.

Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.

Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged .. it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it.

'It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;

I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away.. Just for this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you've put in.

So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!

Thank you for your part in filling my Memory Bank.

I am still depositing.

'Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

My Dear Friends & Family, always remember this 5 simple rules. This is life~ I know we are all human, and we tend to be forgetful especially in small little things.. Sometimes things in life really pissed ping off.. and i just felt like myself drown in anger and worries.. So I am now still learning.. All these years, I tend to change a lot.. When i change for good, my dear encourages; When i change for bad, he will pull ping back.... I am really glad that my dear & family is always beside ping~

If you feel drown by bad or down emotions, remember this 5 simple rules.. Put or write in somewhere you will see often.... Take Care, my dear friends~ Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year!!!

USED vs LOVED

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:42:00 +0000

Hehe ^.^ Just realise ping recently really post a lot of sentimental articles to my blog.. Probably because recently i hurt myself & fractured my right foot.. Kinda slow down a lot especially things to do in life.. Everyday learning to be more patient~ Anyway, let's start the story :

" While a man was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand
and hit it many times not realizing
he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers
due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father.....
with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions......
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;
the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely
life & remember this:
Things are to be used and people are to be loved.
The problem in today's world is
that people are used while things are loved.

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
Things are to be used,
People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder.
I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face
it's the only day you'll have before it's over. Take Care ya!!

妻子的空位 (The Irreplaceable Void)

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:01:00 +0000

是一篇很值得分享的故事

A story worth sharing

我的妻子因為意外事故離開我身邊已經四年了，我想，妻子留下不會做任何家事的我和孩子，她的心有何等難過呢？我也因為無法兼顧父母雙親的角色而感到挫折。有一天我為了出差，清晨趕出門，無法將孩子打點好就得離開家，正巧前一天有剩下的飯，我熱了蒸蛋，向還沒有睡醒的孩子交代一聲，就出門去了。

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

為了照顧好孩子飲食三餐的事，我也無力把自己的工作做好。有一天晚上回到家，我只是很簡短地和孩子打個招呼，就因為身體疲累，不想吃晚餐，脫掉西裝之後就直接往床上躺下。就在那個時候，砰的一聲，紅色的湯汁跟泡麵瞬時弄髒了床單和被單，原來有碗泡麵在棉被裡！這小子真是的，說時遲那時快，我即時拿起一個衣架，跑出去，往正玩著玩具的兒子的屁股就打，因為我實在是太生氣了，所以不停地打他。但就在這個時候，他邊啜泣邊說了一段話，使我停了下來。

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all I heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bed sheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

兒子告訴我說：「飯鍋裡的飯早上已經吃完了，晚餐在幼稚園吃了，但是到了晚上，爸爸還不回來，我就在櫥櫃的抽屜裡找到了泡麵。可是我想到爸爸說不能亂動瓦斯爐，所以我就打開洗澡的水龍頭，用熱水泡了泡麵，一個自己吃，另一個想留給爸爸吃。因為怕泡麵涼掉，所以我就把它放在棉被裡，等你回來。可是因為我正在玩向朋友借來的玩具，所以忘了跟爸爸講。」

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

我不想讓兒子看到我在流淚，所以衝到洗手間，將水龍頭打開，大聲地哭。過了一陣子之後，我打起精神來，一面哄著兒子，一面也在他屁股上擦藥，讓他上床睡覺。當我清理好泡麵弄髒的床單和棉被後，打開兒子的房門一看，發現他仍舊發出哭泣聲，手裡還拿著媽媽的照片。我把頭靠在房門站了許久，看著這一幕。

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

自從在一年前發生這件事之後，我為了扮演好媽媽的角色，更加用心地去照顧他。現在兒子快七歲了，不久後就要從幼稚園畢業，進入國小讀書。慶幸的是，兒子在這段時間毫無陰影，很開朗地成長。

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

就在不久前，我再一次打孩子，因為幼稚園來電話說，兒子沒有去學校，我心裡覺得很不安，所以早退回家，在整個社區裡大聲地喊他的名字，卻是遍尋不著。後來在文具店的門?f，看見他站在電玩的前面，於是我很生氣，又開始一直打他。兒子並沒有說出任何的解釋，只說了聲對不起。後來我才知道，原來剛好是幼稚園要邀請媽媽去看才藝表演的日子。

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

發生這些事的幾天後，兒子回家說，他在幼稚園裡學了寫字，從此他經常關在自己的房間裡不出來，很認真地寫字。我看到兒子這個樣子，想到妻子在天國也一定會因為看到他這樣而微笑，我就無法忍住淚水。

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

時間很快，又過了一年，到了冬天，街頭上都在播放著聖誕節的歌曲，我的兒子卻又闖了一個禍。我正要下班的時候，接到一通社區郵局的電話，說我兒子把一綑沒有寫地址的信，惡作劇地放在郵筒裡。每年到了年底，正是郵局最忙碌的時候，所以這對他們造成很大的困擾。雖然我已決定不再打孩子，但在急忙趕回家後，叫了兒子來，我又忍不住痛打他一頓。兒子這一次只是說他做錯了，卻沒有講出任何理由。我把他推到一個角落，不管了，自個兒跑到郵局領回那一綑惡作劇的信。我把信丟到他眼前說：「你為什麼要這樣惡作劇？」兒子哭著回答說：「這些信是我要寄給媽媽的。」

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

當時我的眼眶紅了起來，心裡很激動，但是因為在兒子面前，所以我盡量隱忍住沒有表現出來。我接著問他：「那麼，為什麼一次寄這麼多信呢？」兒子回答說：「以前我要把信投進去的時候，因為個兒太矮，所以沒辦法投入，但是最近我再去郵筒時，已經搆得到了，所以我就把以前沒有寄的，一次全部都投進入了。」

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

我聽了以後，心中一片茫然，不知道該對孩子說什麼話。過了不久以後，我就跟他說：「媽媽現在在天上，以後你寫完信，把信燒了，就能送到天國去。」等孩子睡著之後，我到外面燒了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟媽媽說些什麼，所以讀了其中的幾封信。

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say......

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

而當中有一封信攪動了我的心。

And one of the letters broke my heart....

親愛的媽媽：
我很想念你！媽媽，今天在幼稚園有才藝表演，但是因為我沒有媽媽，所以沒有去參加，我也沒有告訴爸爸，怕爸爸會想念媽媽。爸爸到處去找我，但我為了讓爸爸看到我很開心的樣子，所以故意坐在電動玩具面前，雖然爸爸罵我，但是我到最後也沒有告訴他原因。媽媽，我每天都看到爸爸因為想念媽媽而哭泣，我想爸爸也跟我一樣，很想念媽媽吧！但是，媽，我現在已經記不清楚你的臉。媽媽，請你讓我在夢中，再一次能夠看到你的臉，好嗎？聽說把想念的人的照片放在懷裡睡覺，就會夢到那個人。可是，媽媽，為什麼你沒有出現在我的夢裡呢？」

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven’t you appear?

讀完這封信以後，我就開始嚎啕大哭。到底什麼時候，我才能填補妻子的空位呢？

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

給已經結婚的女同事：

不要加太多班，工作做不完，一定是公司的某些地方出問題了，一定要將問題反應給妳的老闆，一直加班也不見的有用的，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝。

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.

給已經結婚的男同事：

不要喝太多酒，不要抽太多煙，請問我們的生意，我們的客戶，有比我們的身體重要嗎？
一定要想一想，有沒有辦法做到客人非我們不行，我們的差異化在哪裡，我們是否真的懂客人的心，這比拼命喝酒，還重要，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝和你的愛人。

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

給還沒有結婚的男同事和女同事：

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.
美其實是從愛自己的身體開始 --（蔣勳，身體美學）。
無入而不自得 -- （孔子）。

妳/你們一定要很自在，工作才能做的好，如果工作讓你/妳們的心情做的很辛苦，代表的是我們的公司不夠聰明，那也是公司什麼地方不對了，要勇敢的說出來，不要讓不聰明的工作與老闆，傷害了妳/你們的身體。

Take Care, my dear friends, Families & Blog Visitors...

7 Don'tS After A Meal ^.^

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:14:00 +0000

1 . Don't SMOKE
Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after meail is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes ( Chances of cancer is higher).

2. Don't eat fruits immediately.
Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause stomach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hour after meal or 1 hour before meal.

3. Don't drink tea.
Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will cause the protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

4. Don't loosen your belt.
Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to be twisted and blocked.

5. Don't bathe.
Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the stomach wil therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

6. Don't walk about.
People always say that after a meal, walk a hundred steps and you will love till 99. IN actual fact, this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

7. Don't Sleep Immediately.
The food we intake will not be able to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

Apples	Protects your heart	prevents constipation	Blocks diarrhea	Improves lung capacity	Cushions joints
Apricots	Combats cancer	Controls blood pressure	Saves your eyesight	Shields against Alzheimer's	Slows aging process
Artichokes	Aids digestion	Lowers cholesterol	Protects your heart	Stabilizes blood sugar	Guards against liver disease
Avocados	Battles diabetes	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	Controls blood pressure	Smoothes skin
Bananas	Protects your heart	Quiets a cough	Strengthens bones	Controls blood pressure	Blocks diarrhea
Beans	Prevents constipation	Helps hemorrhoids	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	Stabilizes blood sugar
Beets	Controls blood pressure	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones	Protects your heart	Aids weight loss
Blueberries	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Stabilizes blood sugar	Boosts memory	Prevents constipation
Broccoli	Strengthens bones	Saves eyesight	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure
Cabbage	Combats cancer	Prevents constipation	Promotes weight loss	Protects your heart	Helps hemorrhoids
Cantaloupe	Saves eyesight	Controls blood pressure	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	Supports immune system
Carrots	Saves eyesight	Protects your heart	Prevents constipation	Combats cancer	Promotes weight loss
Cauliflower	Protects against Prostate Cancer	Combats Breast Cancer	Strengthens bones	Banishes bruises	Guards against heart disease
Cherries	Protects your heart	Combats Cancer	Ends insomnia	Slows aging process	Shields against Alzheimer's
Chestnuts	Promotes weight loss	Protects your heart	Lowers cholesterol	Combats Cancer	Controls blood pressure
Chili peppers	Aids digestion	Soothes sore throat	Clears sinuses	Combats Cancer	Boosts immune system
Figs	Promotes weight loss	Helps stops strokes	Lowers cholesterol	Combats Cancer	Controls blood pressure
Fish	Protects your heart	Boosts memory	Protects your heart	Combats Cancer	Supports immune system
Flax	Aids digestion	Battles diabetes	Protects your heart	Improves mental health	Boosts immune system
Garlic	Lowers cholesterol	Controls blood pressure	Combats cancer	kills bacteria	Fights fungus
Grapefruit	Protects against heart attacks	Promotes Weight loss	Helps stops strokes	Combats Prostate Cancer	Lowers cholesterol
Grapes	saves eyesight	Conquers kidney stones	Combats cancer	Enhances blood flow	Protects your heart
Green tea	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Helps stops strokes	Promotes Weight loss	Kills bacteria
Honey	Heals wounds	Aids digestion	Guards against ulcers	Increases energy	Fights allergies
Lemons	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure	Smoothes skin	Stops scurvy
Limes	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure	Smoothes skin	Stops scurvy
Mangoes	Combats cancer	Boosts memory	Regulates thyroid	aids digestion	Shields against Alzheimer's
Mushrooms	Controls blood pressure	Lowers cholesterol	Kills bacteria	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones
Oats	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	Battles diabetes	prevents constipation	Smoothes skin
Olive oil	Protects your heart	Promotes Weight loss	Combats cancer	Battles diabetes	Smoothes skin
Onions	Reduce risk of heart attack	Combats cancer	Kills bacteria	Lowers cholesterol	Fights fungus
Oranges	Supports immune systems	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Straightens respiration
Peaches	prevents constipation	Combats cancer	Helps stops strokes	aids digestion	Helps hemorrhoids
Peanuts	Protects against heart disease	Promotes Weight loss	Combats Prostate Cancer	Lowers cholesterol	Aggravates Diverticulitis
Pineapple	Strengthens bones	Relieves colds	Aids digestion	Dissolves warts	Blocks diarrhea
Prunes	Slows aging process	prevents constipation	boosts memory	Lowers cholesterol	Protects against heart disease
Rice	Protects your heart	Battles diabetes	Conquers kidney stones	Combats cancer	Helps stops strokes
Strawberries	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	boosts memory	Calms stress
Sweet potatoes	Saves your eyesight	Lifts mood	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones
Tomatoes	Protects prostate	Combats cancer	Lowers cholesterol	Protects your heart
= Walnuts	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	boosts memory	Lifts mood	Protects against heart disease
Water	Promotes Weight loss	Combats cancer	Conquers kidney stones	Smoothes skin
Watermelon	Protects prostate	Promotes Weight loss	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	Controls blood pressure
Wheat germ	Combats Colon Cancer	prevents constipation	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	improves digestion
Wheat bran	Combats Colon Cancer	prevents constipation	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	improves digestion
Yogurt	Guards against ulcers	Strengthens bones	Lowers cholesterol	Supports immune systems	Aids digestion

An Article of Marriage & Divorce : forward by my Brother

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:55:00 +0000

This is a forward email by my brother, surprisingly. When I initially started reading, i felt sad. I ask myself, What is marriage? a commitment from both person, a couple. but why DIVORCE? around ping, I see happy marriage examples, such as my beloved parents.. BUT i also seen broken marriage examples~ From there i start to understand, life is imperfect, a lifetime is very LONG, but also very short. Many ups and down.. For ping, it's very short. I don't know how long can ping live~ we always think we have many many years to live and wait for another day to do something.. So ping start to have the habit of becoming fast, rushing & still rushing.. UNTIL recently ping rushing again, and end up losing my ipHone, fell down in the middle of the road & injured myself..

It is my dear who tell ping; Result or Last episode is not everything, most important is the journey that we walk together. Sometimes when a couple walk together for a long time, they start to take thing granted from each other.. The moral value of this article below is we must always appreciate & thankful to our beloved ones.
Dear, I will try my best to take care of myself and my foot in the coming one month's time, because it's our lifetime moment. We can always have party, friends event but it's not life and death to rush about.. however, Without my foot, ping cant even walk to you. Anyway many crap from ping d liao.. Let's start the article :

Once upon a Time, .... When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.
I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: 'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are

You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.

心里的快乐, 应该是来自平静的心..

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 19:01:00 +0000

Tonight ping had a deep talk with my dear, on the way back from gathering.. Dunno how it started, but after talked out, ping feel so much better.. So glad & happy that dear is beside ping when i try to face out problem in my heart.. When ping hug dear, i can feel dear's positive energy strength & belief in our future, which pulls ping out from losing myself.. Since April, ping fall into deep depression & face a lot of uncertainty. Ping become very insecure, cant cope with stress, loneliness & try to rebel.. Dear said, We are not god, we dunno & also wont know what will happen in future/ next minute.. He also unsure whether his future is bright or dark.. I can see dear put a lot of responsibility on his shoulder when we decide to hold each others hand & walk this journey together...

Life = Ups & Down.. This fact, ping know in heart.. But i also believe if there is a will, there is a way~ The day when i decide to open my heart, Ping want to bring happiness for him.. Dear encourage ping, not to keep find excuses or blame others for own greediness and failure.. When i know how to 放下心中的贪念, 知足 then ping will be more 快乐... sometimes OFTEN, I might find it very hard... but dear is right, this is a process journey, patient & steady is what ping need...是 ping 不够努力.. that's why 恐惧不安 is always in heart~

心里的快乐, 应该是来自平静的心..

Ping is super happy that this year ping is able to celebrate dear's birthday together.. We have been together, soon gonna 4 years liao.. Really appreciate dear to be very patient with my emotional tempered & bad habbits.. Although ping's cake is not perfect.. haha should say it's too sweet & out of shape.. ^.^

HOWEVER today, ping finally know how to find peace in my heart d.. Thanks, my dear~ Love you always...

Kite Flying 2009.09.12

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 07:12:00 +0000

This post, ping want to introduce my blog visitor : Kite Flying.. Honestly after my experience, my advice is when there is no wind, best not to go for kite flying.. Because it will feels like you are pulling or running with the kite.. Not FLYING.. an idiot activity that ping did yesterday -->
Say Cheese.. This is Liu Sheng.. hehe my dear is the photographer~~ ^.^poor fella...
See--> dont you think ping run like an idiot??
Stupiak kite & Stupiak ping.. :P
Now see the expert--> Fook Ming :P the yellow shirt near the yellow car...
hehe Too bad.. No wind yesterday~ :P
Anyway it is really really fun & relaxing.. Ping is so happy to be away from stress & worry.. ^.^ After that ping also went to pasar malam & mamak !!! really miss hang out ler...

The story of Eagle..

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:04:00 +0000

Never knew that Eagles have such a story~ I always feel that eagles are the type of very lonely animals... They often fly alone~ Din know they have to go through such a tough change to re-birth.. I guess we as human is more lucky~ YET we are very greedy.. haha~~ Anyway ping is now reading a book, titled : " Don't Argue, no matter what !~" will give my response after reading..

Souverign Hill Trip

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:20:00 +0000

^.^ finally posted all of the souverign photos.. Took ping quite some time, as ping normally write my blog during my lunch hour.. Anyway this week, ping wan to introduce Souverign Hill to my blog visitor.. Ping went with my dearest mom, was hoping to so many many gold...
We took Vline country train line in the morning, departing at 9.08am..Platform 8A
Here it comes~ ^.^
Honestly PING REALLY REALLY love this vline train.. this is my first time praising a train !!!! it is so so comfortable, & when it runs, it doesn't feel like the train is moving at all... Sounds weird right?
Say Cheese !!! Yeah~
This is.. Part of the Souverign Hill scene..
Some kids trying to dig gold?? You must be kidding..

Mommy toi, are you trying to dig gold?? But i only saw Mud water & sand~ -.-"
I start to look my kitchen when i see this miserable pot that they use in those days..
Invest in puddling machine?? Are you interested??

haha Let ping introduce --> this is Boar.. when i showed my dear, he said it looks like my mom & I.. KNS~ anyway ping tagged one of it as him in facebook.. Haha~~ don't you agree with ping??
Trying to imagine how's the lifestyle during those age? or is it still happening in the world??
Mom, Marcus & ping.. such an coincidence, ping met my ex-school mate.. Actually knew him since primary school.. He is really a brilliant student.. Now currently in Brisbane studying~~
Really happy to see him after the year we graduate in Kwang Hua.. Must plan trip to go visit him next year hopefully d...
Some of the scenary in Souverign Hill..

Theatre~ Real person, real voice.. If anyone of you happens to visit Australia, one thing that you should never miss is Theatre.. It is really worth while to watch & experience..
Old Tavern bar..

Melting Gold session~
Cool.. look at how shining the gold is when it is melted...
Gold bar~ worth of ??? million ?? but it so looks like fake..
Ice Sculpture Display in the park..
I wonder how come ping still decides to go in, where inside is cold like hell.. shivering~

Manufacturer factory

Old Style Wooden Bowling Ball~
Old Style Bowling Alley

Army :P

I like this guy the most.. But he seems to be very fierce hor??

Lastly, time to say goodbye lor.. ^.^ Yeah~~ had fun in Souverign Hill...

Damn Stress~

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:41:00 +0000

Damn stress...is the only two words that i can think of now.. Recently ping has been busy working overtime.. Kinda really make my life a bit upside down~ & then i feel myself very unhealthy... No time for friends, No time to do my stuff, No time to follow up my bills & accounts, No time to plan for my travel, No time to follow up my postgrad issues, No time to look for new place to stay.. All sitting there waiting to solve.. It feels like shit, honestly~

Everynight when come back from OT, i kinda watch drama or play RC to destress and withdraw myself from work.. I just feel like wan to relax myself after work~

Anyway becoz of working overtime lately, ping has been eating irregular as well... Argh, it feels even more unhealthy because ping don even time to go exercise or play some games. Not that i dont want to.. I know it probably sounds like giving excuses.. haha~

I know i shouldn't be complaining about working OT.. Wat ping actually complaining is about myself.. Ping did not find a good solution to face this working OT problem.. It adds more stress when deadlines are nearer.. Because from the start i din face the issues, it now just got worsen...

I think my owe myself happiness & healthy.. I should do something~ >_< before ping rottens.. Mind is so blur~ I promise myself.. I will calm down & try to fix my life... One by one at a time~~

Dinner @ Sushi Burger :P

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 03:32:00 +0000

After yesterday's stressful & tired day.. Ping went back home, talked & see dear.. Ping felt so so much better.. After that, ping had a very good sleep because too tired already~ Happy to see my dear.. Find my energy level got replenish again~

Anyway this is a post from July :P haha~ forget the exact date already.. It was an dinner outing with two of my best Melbourne Friend, Rainie & Candy~ It was straight after work.. Ping looked sleepy & tired~ I still remember i was working late the night before...
My dear Friend --> Rainie
My dear Friend --> Candy
Argh, it has been really really a LONG LONG time that three of us didn't went out together...I eman just three of us~ Reminds ping the days during 1st year, when we were happily still discussing how to diet :P
Guess what? we are still the same weight~ :P Ping still chubby~ still the same look..
Friendship Forever.. Although we are now apart, but i believe friendship is forever in our heart and will not makes our friendship fades..
Haha~ imagine we are quarelling.. Don't worry, that is just a pose~
Fried Octopus Ball.. yummy~
Yeah, the food has come !!!
The famous of the shop --> Sushi Burger!!! delicious :P

Max Brener @ Melbourne Central--Choc Drink YumCha

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 15:07:00 +0000

2009.07.02
Yahoo~~ My best friend CANDY, CAME BACK Melbourne for a short holiday.. Honestly Ping miss her so so much~ Really happy tat we are able to see each other again since January..
How come her face still so COOL de.. haha must be tired after a long flight from Hong Kong.. but EYES still so big..
Three Cameras at the same time.. How come our pose still remains the same de... My favorite Pose 'V' Yeah~ :D Ping tired d liao la.. after a long day of working..
The Girls :P Candy, Ping, Vera & JoJo
Hey don curi snap ler.. Yor~~ ping very chubby face ler.. Our drinks have arrived.. Mine is Mocha Frappe.. hehe Winter so cold d liao, ping still drink cold choc frappe... freezing~The Sweet Couple --> Khairul & Yui
Here comes the Light Bulb--> Ping..
Ping's Notty Face ~~ Yui's Ultraman?? Khairul's uncle Face~~
Gonna miss Yui as well.. She has now gone to UK, to further her Master d~ Take care, my fren..
Really very happy to see them.. It has been since a long time~ 6months after we graduated.. Time really flies.. Hope we will see each other again~

A bear, a lion and a pig meet...........‏

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 09:40:00 +0000

When a bear, a lion, and a pig met;
Bear said :
" If I roar in the forest, the entire forest shivers with fear."
Lion said :
" If I roar in the jungle, the entire jungle is afraid of me."
Pig said:
"No Big deal... I only need to have flu, and the entire planet lives in fear."

Hehe~~ Very cute de Joke, rite?? Just want to share with my blog visitors.. & also to remind everyone to Take Care themselves. Eat more Vegetables, Fruits to maintain Balance diet...
Grapes !!! is my daily breakfast~~ :P ping eat a BAGful everyday..
Australia is very famous for it's Granny Smith Green Apple.. An Apple a day, Keeps Doctor away~
Now is also cherry season.. Ping actually doesn't like to eat cherry, Until One day, I found out that cherry is so sweet & tasty~~
STRAWBERRY !!!! my favorite, when it is sweet & together with Chocolate...
Orange is also one of my daily nutrition.. Full with Vitamin C and helps to digest all the junk tat i eat~ ^.^

2nd Time Puffing Billy Trip

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 03:11:00 +0000

2009.07.05
hehe This is ping's 2nd trip to Puffing Billy at Belgrave. Although it's the 2nd time, but ping still very excited !!! Becoz this time Ping becomes the tour guide, bringing my mom around ^.^
Ops.. Ping is still brushing teeth.. The sun just came out~ Early Morning.. eyes still half closed~In the Lif~ Ready to go...Say Cheese!!!
A lot of ppl says ping & my mom really looks alike.. Really?? What i know of is we are SIMILIAR HEIGHT.. & SIMILIAR taste~ which my dear says is TWO version of ping; One old, One young~
Freezing Cold, waiting at the platform to Belgrave..
My hair seems to grow long already~ :P
haha !!! tat scarf is ping's de.. I borrow my mom to wear~ Makes her Looks young, rite??
haha~ Did anyone found something fishy about this photo?? Mcdonald paper bag~~ Our breakfast...
We are now on the Connex Train d liao..
Very very excited~
Switch !!! we are now on the puffing Billy Train d liao.. Faster reserve a good seat to watch the scenery later...
Here it comes~~ the 'Head' of the train.. Really looks a toy instead...

Mommy toi, What are you looking at??
Hey, LOOK HERE !! :P
Journey Starts~~
hehe Mommy toi & Ping's shoe~
Honestly this train actually looks alike with the Harry Potter train.. Similiar style~~
Yeah !!! hope my mom does enjoy.. Although it is freezing cold..
BEST Scenary... Amongst all the scenery that ping saw along the road, This is the perfect & also my favourite :P
hehe Time to Get off lor.. Still sitting there?? :P Taking photos for memory...
haha Ping's turn !!!! but it looks weird with no one in it rite?
Anyway it is really a nice journey trip & also experience~ However, my advice is REMEMBER to wear sun Glasses or avoid wearing Contact lens if you intend to sit along the train rail..

Celebrate Ah Bor's Birthday

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 11:29:00 +0000

hehe~ This is actually a very late post.. :P Sorry, my dear friend Ah Bor.. His Birthday is actually JUNE 22nd.. and today is already 23rd JULY -.-" no choice la.. ping very busy.. photo sitting in desktop for quite some time d.. Finally tonight no need to work OT... June 22nd falls on a Monday, so ping celebrate with him on 21st Sunday night instead... We went to White Tomato along Bourke Street, a Korean BBQ restaurant~~
^.^ BBQ Time... Super Lot of meat ler.. Two of us end up taking away~ 4 types of MEAT.. eat meat, become MEATY liao..
The Birthday Boy--> Ah Bor :P
hehe Balloon in his room~~ Happy Birthday !!!
Ah Bor & Ping...
Argh, my camera flash too bright d.. haha or is it too late d liao?? time to bed??
Of Course No~~ Let's see whose eyes is bigger?? It's ah Bor ler..
Anyway, Really happy to have Ah Bor as my friend.. So fast 1 year pass by d, Ping still rem last year, i also went to his birthday party with my dear.. also BBQ night at Swinburne hostel.. Time really flies rite?? Miss uni days...

Present ^.^

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 12:51:00 +0000

Just want to share with my blog visitors this Meaningful Slide.. It's title is Present~~ ^.^ It's really nice & touching.. Worthwhile to read & remember in heart.. So ngam my dear's blog is also called as present Box.. Anyway, hope you like it~~ :P

Rod Laver Arena - Disney on Ice

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 11:48:00 +0000

Saturday 4th July 2009
Our Lunch + Afternoon Tea before going to Rod Laver Arena
It looks really Yummy rite?? :P we actually also order Char Siew Pau also... But my mom and I were so hungry & finished it before I remember to take photograph :PHehe Guess wat Door Number is it??
It's Door 16 !!!! event starting soon.. Gosh, Lots of Kids... I guess we both probably are one of them~~ LOL..
It's Ping~~~ Do you think my shirt matches WELL with the chair colour?? i seems to be working there... LOL~~
Mommy Toi & Ping :P
Show gonna start soon lor... Excited~~
Haha did u saw what is under her hand?? :P Our Favourite~ Mcdonald.. as our Popcorn ^.^
Unfortunately, ping only can print screen of from my movie shots that i have taken, because the video file is quite big & ping has limited internet usage..
Cute Little 7 Dwarf~
Dragon with Fire on Ice~ Really Cool....
Imagine it's Indoor & the fire is burning on the Ice.. Wander how they made that successful...
Ballroom - Cinderella Dancing
Waltz.. I wan to learn also d...
Here comes the Princess Cinderella :P
Little Mermaid - Be my GuestLittle Mermaid... 7 Sexy Mermaid :P with Sebastian Lobster~~
Finale.. Last Dance--> The Princesses Finale.. Last Dance--> The Princes

Tinkle bell coming~ Really Unexpected... Here comes the fireworks~~
It was really a nice show~~ Worth while to watch as ping still pay for Concession price ^.^ wakaka... Anyway ping apologise for the short description. Was in a hurry writing, while I am suppose to go on bed right now... :P More updates coming soon~~ Wait till i am next free..

Zodiac Sign - Real?? haha for you to check :P

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 00:39:00 +0000

Friend forwarded ping this email & i decided to post in my blog to see SOME response :P At Least the description for Aquarius, which is ME~ is nearly there...Read your sign, & Leave comments for ping see whether is it true for yourself.

VIRGO - The Perfectionist
Dominant in relationships.. Conservative. Always wants the last word. Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. Hard to please. Harsh. Practical and very fussy. Often shy. Pessimistic.

SCORPIO - The Intense One
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible.

ARIES - The Daredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge... EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (Easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive. Tends to be physical and athletic.

AQUARIUS - The Sweetheart
Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

I am AQUARIUS girl :P

GEMINI - The Chatterbox
Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable but needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Likes change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent, but is only changeable. Beautiful physically and mentally.

LEO - The Boss
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries. Tend to take over everything. Bossy. Like to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. D oing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

CANCER - The Protector
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.

PISCES - The Dreamer
Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.

CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter
Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimists. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly y at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

TAURUS - The Enduring One
Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but they are not. Hard workers. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Express themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulge themselves often. Very generous.

SAGITTARIUS - The Happy-Go-Lucky One
Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling. Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Having lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted. Beautiful inside and out.

一個特别 <灰姑娘> 故事

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 11:35:00 +0000

上課鈴響了，孩子們跑進教室，這節課老師要講的是《灰姑娘》的故事。老師先請一個孩子上臺給同學講一講這個故事。
孩子很快講完了，老師對他表示了感謝，然後開始向全班提問。

老師：你們喜歡故事裏面的哪一個？不喜歡哪一個？為什麼？

學生：喜歡辛黛瑞拉（灰姑娘），還有王子，不喜歡她的後媽和後媽帶來的姐姐。辛黛瑞拉善良、可愛、漂亮。後媽和姐姐對辛黛瑞拉不好。

老師：如果在午夜12點的時候，辛黛瑞拉沒有來得及跳上她的南瓜馬車，你們想一想，可能會出現什麼情況？

學生：辛黛瑞拉會變成原來髒髒的樣子，穿著破舊的衣服。哎呀，那就慘啦。

老師：所以，你們一定要做一個守時的人，不然就可能給自己帶來麻煩。另外，你們看，你們每個人平時都打扮得漂漂亮亮的，千萬不要突然邋裏邋遢地出現在別人面前，不然你們的朋友要嚇著了。女孩子們，你們更要注意，將來你們長大和男孩子約會，要是你不注意，被你的男朋友看到你很難看的樣子，他們可能就嚇昏了（老師做昏倒狀，全班大笑）。

好，下一個問題：如果你是辛黛瑞拉的後媽，你會不會阻止辛黛瑞拉去參加王子的舞會？你們一定要誠實喲！

學生：（過了一會兒，有孩子舉手回答）是的，如果我是辛黛瑞拉的後媽，我也會阻止她去參加王子的舞會。

老師：為什麼？

學生：因為，因為我愛自己的女兒，我希望自己的女兒成為王后?

老師：是的，所以，我們看到的後媽好像都是不好的人，她們只是對別人不夠好，可是她們對自己的孩子卻很好，你們明白了嗎？她們不是壞人，只是她們還不能夠像愛自己的孩子一樣去愛其他的孩子。

孩子們，下一個問題：辛黛瑞拉的後媽不讓她去參加王子的舞會，甚至把門鎖起來，她為什麼能夠去，而且成為舞會上最美麗的姑娘呢？

學生：因為有仙女幫助她，給她漂亮的衣服，還有把南瓜變成馬車，把狗和老鼠變成僕人。

老師：對，你們說得很好！想一想，如果辛黛瑞拉沒有得到仙女的幫助，她是不可能去參加舞會的，是不是？

學生：是的！

老師：如果狗、老鼠都不願意幫助她，她可能在最後的時刻成功地跑回家嗎？

學生：不會，那樣她就可以成功地嚇到王子了。（全班再次大笑）

老師：雖然辛黛瑞拉有仙女幫助她，但是，光有仙女的幫助還不夠。所以，孩子們，無論走到哪裏，我們都是需要朋友的。我們的朋友不一定是仙女，但是，我們需要他們，我也希望你們有很多很多的朋友。

下面，請你們想一想，如果辛黛瑞拉因為後媽不願意她參加舞會就放棄了機會，她可能成為王子的新娘嗎？

學生：不會！那樣的話，她就不會到舞會上，不會被王子遇到，認識和愛上她了。

老師：對極了！如果辛黛瑞拉不想參加舞會，就是她的後媽沒有阻止，甚至支持她去，也是沒有用的，是誰決定她要去參加王子的舞會？

學生：她自己。

老師：所以，孩子們，就是辛黛瑞拉沒有媽媽愛她，她的後媽不愛她，這也不能夠讓她不愛自己。就是因為她愛自己，她才可能去尋找自己希望得到的東西。如果你們當中有人覺得沒有人愛，或者像辛黛瑞拉一樣有一個不愛她的後媽，你們要怎麼樣？

學生：要愛自己！

老師：對，沒有一個人可以阻止你愛自己，如果你覺得別人不夠愛你，你要加倍地愛自己；如果別人沒有給你機會，你應該加倍地給自己機會；如果你們真的愛自己，就會為自己找到自己需要的東西，沒有人可以阻止辛黛瑞拉參加王子的舞會，沒有人可以阻止辛黛瑞拉當上王后，除了她自己。對不對？
學生：是的！！！

老師：最後一個問題，這個故事有什麼不合理的地方？

學生：（過了好一會）午夜12點以後所有的東西都要變回原樣，可是，辛黛瑞拉的水晶鞋沒有變回去。

老師：天哪，你們太棒了！你們看，就是偉大的作家也有出錯的時候，所以，出錯不是什麼可怕的事情。我擔保，如果你們當中誰將來要當作家，一定比這個作家更棒！你們相信嗎？

孩子們歡呼雀躍。

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真棒的老師！應該是全美最好的！
此為美國一所普通小學的一堂閱讀課! 。
我們是幾歲的時候才想到這些層面？ (不知道，老師沒教)

Yummy Lunch Box :P

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:30:00 +0000

Yesternight was so so tired, but don't know why ping cant sleep~ My head was like spinning and mind just wandering around... So i called dear while ping is lying on the bed. I guess dear was pretty nervous as today he had his IELTS test. Happy to hear his voice after his exam~ ^.^ Glad that now the exam has finally over~

Talked to dear for quite a while & from our conversation, ping suddenly realise something important from dear... Life always has ups & downs, whether Happy or Sad is all part of life. Good Things doesn't happens always, So I must learn to put things down.. Enjoy the happy moments, Take it easy & calm down.

生活有起有落, 不如意事常八九, 我要学会释怀;
开心时, 要懂得珍惜; 难过时, 要懂得心宽..

That's right !!!! Take it easy & Calm down~ What ever happens, we still need to continue living, to sleep, eat & work/ study... hehe so this week wanted to introduced my Blog Visitor some tasty Little Lunch Box....
Looking yummy, rite??
Ping actually does make lunch box to work as well de~ Cant imagine, rite?? wakaka don't you LAUGH !!! ping also knows how to cook, just tat not as nice as restaurant...
Sheep :P sleeping in the grass..
Hello Kitty..
Of course, one thing for sure..My lunch box isn't that colourful as all these...
Not with so many variety as well...
I love this.. Hambuger is my 2nd favourite~~
Magician~
Snow Man~~
the Egg in Love shape looks nice... I like the strawberry as well..
Samurai couple...
Fat version?? :P
Wonder how they make the rice to pink colour...
It looks like brown rice~ >_< The eyes looks so so so CUTE!!!
Doggie with balloon...
Are you hungry now already??
Tempted by all these lunch box??
Volleyball~ Baseball ~ & Soccer~~
The Prawns looks delicious...Lucky Star~~
I guess these lunch box must take long time & creativity to make them~ It has all the effort & hearts of those who make it~
Anyway, This is MY FAVOURITE among the rest~~ See...OH MY GOD !! this is so cute.. Bear bear sleeping~~
Lastly, next time if ping remembers, I will take a photo of ping's MADE Lunch Box... U'll see how PLAIN my lunch box is..

How to Dance in the Rain??

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:37:00 +0000

This is an article, forwarded by my dad~ I find it interesting, and would like to share with my blog visitors. Hope you will like it & understand the meaningful, warm message~How to Dance in The Rain

It was a busy morning, about 8.30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived at the hospital to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appoinment at 9.00am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me No, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she NO LONGER knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn;t know who you are?"

He smiled, Ad he patted my hand and said, "SHE DOESN'T KNOW ME, BUT I STILL KNOW WHO SHE IS..." I had to hold back tears as he left, and thought, : 'That is the Kind of Love I want in my life.'
True Love is neither physical, nor romantic. True Love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. Here comes along an important message. This one I thought I could share with you.

The Happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; They just make best of everything they have.

'Life isn't about how to survive the STORM, But it's how to learn Dancing in the Rain~'

Mother's Day Outing

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:33:00 +0000

:P I know Mother's Day has been ONE MONTH ago~~~ but ping was too busy tat period, So this post was delayed until now...Sorry~ Sorry...

Let ping introduce, This is my dearest Mom~~ On Mother's day, We went to Victoria Garden Shopping Mall, in Richmond. Ping bought her tulip flowers & belanja her BOOSt Fruit juice drink...
Hehe That's ping together inside the picture :P Do you think we look alike??
^.^ HAHA it really looks alike !!! just tat one is a Elder Ping, one is a Younger Ping :P
We went to our Favourite restaurant, Pacific House to have Steam Soya Sauce fish...One whole fish shared by both of us.. Yummy~~ Dragged my poor mommy toi to play bowling as well.. Yeah~~ ping still maintain my bowling skills... 123 !!! :P Good tat my mom also pick up well~~
Ping seems to look tiny when i sit inside...Beside ping, is MY huge COAT... not my backside... In southern Cross Station.. waiting to go Clayton for our dinner...Weather turning Cold, wearing thicker Coat d...
hehe Mommy toi carried the tulip flowers all around walking in the streets that day~ ^.^ hope she likes it...
Tulip Flower ---> Happy Mother's Day !!!
Surprisingly, tulip is so beautiful... Although ping is a rose lover... But tulip really surprise ping with it's grace look..

..Believing in Yourself~~

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 16:42:00 +0000

Every goal that has eve been reached
BEGAN with just one STEP~
-the belief that it could be attained.

When the road becomes hard to travel,
& it feels as if you'll never reach the end...

LOOK deep inside your HEART~
You will find strength you never knew you had.

BELIEVE in Yourself,
& always remember that Dreams really can come true...

Day Trip to Puffing Billy~

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 09:36:00 +0000

Many things happen on friday & saturday.. Honestly i had a really bad Saturday~ My emotion was so so so down, until my brain fuse just burnt out... Everytime When ping start to hope or set too high expectation, OR rush too fast, most of the time i end up falling down, hurting myself, full of frustration & unsecure, my heart just feel lost, don't know where to go.. But i am really glad that ping sat down & chat with dear... He told ping that i am not lost~ dont keep on U turn & turning roundabouts. Go straight, & the destination is there. In front, i will able to see his car with signal leading ping through... When i heard it, my heart melts~ YES, i said to myself..Why should ping keep on falling back? As long as i put down the word greedy in my heart, i will be able to solve many things..知足常乐~~

Dear, thank you.. I will give you all my support in your decision & respect you as my another half. Go ahead & gambate strike for your career. You will always have ping to listen on. No matter which road you have choosen, hold my hand, i will follow you & we will walk this journey together.

Anyway after a miserable day, ping finally decide to travel somewhere & visit. So Puffing Bill Steam train, here i COME :P
8.21am..It's time for me to leave my house to the station lor.. here's my Back Pack :P many many stuff inside~~
With my sports shoe & tracking pants, OK!!! ready to go..
Argh~~ Look at ping !! still havent really wake up yet.. of course lor.. ping slept around 4am ler~~ Super tired.. My eyes is swollen~~
Before going to train station, ping went to the Mcdonald downstairs to take away my breakfast :P
Yummy :P ping miss Mcdonald's breakfast~~Guess what's in it??
Sausage Mc Muffin without Cheese & my favourite Hashbrown..
5 Minutes walk to Southern Cross Station (formerly Spencer Station) Wonderful Steel Glass Structure :PThis is Melbourne's Train Network Mapping..
& this is where ping is going~ the last stop BELGRAVE..
I am early.. 11 minutes to go~ train departs at 8.39am
Few other country side coach trainlines waiting to depart..
yeah~ yeah.. Ping on my way to Belgrave lor..
Ok !! this is it~ BELGRAVE station..
Ramp getting out from train station... Cool curving pattern steel balustrade~~
I start seeing trees more than CONCRETE block~
First thing when i reach belgrave, i walk to the city & take away my lunch.. SUBWAY~Opens at 8am...
Foot Long of Roasted Chicken Honey Oat Roll.. into Bag, still not the time to eat yet...
Entrance to the puffing Billy station~~
Passed through a bridge which caught my attention with wonderfull concrete support bridge structure.
Posters along the way to the Booking office~~
Waiting for my turn to buy TICKET~~ :P excited...
Before hooping on the train, of course ping need to go toilet first~ This steam train doesnt has toilet de...
That's the Wine & Dine train~ it looks luxury..
My ticket !!! one Adult return~~
Belgrave, i will be back in the evening...
Ping is on the train d~~ Bye !!!
Hehe ping sitting at the 2nd last carriage, so managed to take the front part of the train carriage when it was at a turning point..
This scenery is so so so so NICE~~ ping is in the jungle now d..
This is the long journey map that ping will be travelling !! wakaka..passing through the trees & jungle to the lakeside..
Ei, Look carefully..Do you see something weird?? My leg isn't touching the GROUND !!!
Know the reason why?? haha with this train, u actually can sit on the rails & stick your leg out~~ Ping didn't put my leg out??
LOL~ you must be kidding.. ping is also actually sitting on the rail..
One of the stop = Menzies Creek...
PING IS FLYING !!!! magic~ :P
Argh, my camera not wide angle enough to take full length.. Just in case my camera drops.. Then i'll SHIT...
Peaceful farm~~ along the way..
That's the train HEAD :P
Reaching Lakeside d~~ Ops, forget to take photo sign when i reach..Railway lane..
Signboards pointing the directions...
OH MY GOD... isn't this scenery beautiful? i was like.. What are all these bullshit & frustration that i am thinking about last night?? Shouldn't life to be beautiful & enjoying?? Even with ping frustrated, sad, the sun will still rise everyday & set every evening..
Nature & natural is something which is in my heart deep down inside.. I should find peace in my heart & be happy~ Just like i always believe Happy goes Lucky... Ping, Gambate!!! giving support to myself... I know i Can & i will get through all the ups & down...It's just a learning curve for ping to grow up into adulthood... Look foward to our future~
Haha here ping comes !!! :P destroy the scenery with ping inside liao hor?? wakaka :P too bad.. Look at the shadow !!! it's my another hand taking the camera...
Where should i go now?? :P not sure, just continue walking~~
Bye lake Side !!! heading to the Jungle..
-_-" yeah, have a nice day WALKING.. long walk to go~ :P
<--- Back to Belgrave OR Go to Gembrook --->
That's the puffing billy train carriage..
very very OLD de weighing machine..
EVEN Older & old de weighing machine..
Wow, there is a sexy lady poster on one of the carriage.. How come it's not handsome man??
Time to eat my Subway !! i am hungry d liao.. Yummy~~
Off ping go again!!! argh, my camera's battery is LOW..
Realise i have been taking the same pose again & again~~ Ok another pose... :P this is my another favorite pose..
Lots of trees, Hill & farm~
Site of Landslide~
Another curve turning point !!!
COOL~~ i like this picture~ Finally got it...
Yeah !! Smile~~ Messy Hair got blowed all the times along the journey..I am freezing cold d..but still very happy.. Cleared off a lot of negative 'Qi' in ping...
Guess how many years old is this train HEAD??
WOW, manufactured in 1914.. almost 100 years old... 95 this year !!! should come again during 2014 when it's 100 years old anniversary~~
Tidy Town AWARD~~ wow.. but that's real. I didn't see any litters on my way...
The End~ Really sorry, my dear blog visitors... My camera's battery runs out half way furing my trip.. It's because this is a last minute trip & ping FORGET to charge my battery :P

Anyway Advice for EVERYONE who drives :
IF YOU DRINK, THEN DRIVE..YOU'rE a BLOODY IDIOT... :P

放下心中的贪念, 知足常乐..

evelynhweiping@hotmail.com (~EvELyN PinG~) — Sun, 31 May 2009 12:27:00 +0000

Lao GonG's 鼓励 : 放下心中的贪念, 知足常乐..

想要體會「一年」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個失敗重修的學生。
想要體會「一月」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個不幸早產的母親。
想要體會「一週」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個定期週刊的編輯。
想要體會「一小時」有多少價值，
你可以去問一對等待相聚的戀人。
想要體會「一分鐘」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個錯過火車的旅人。
想要體會「一秒鐘」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個死裡逃生的幸運兒。
想要體會「一毫秒」有多少價值，
你可以去問一個錯失金牌的運動員。

因為想陪伴你, 所以喜歡在你身邊....
喜歡看到你快樂, 所以我要快樂..
希望带给你幸福, 所以我要努力照顾我自己..
让你担心了..