USED vs LOVED

Hehe ^.^ Just realise ping recently really post a lot of sentimental articles to my blog.. Probably because recently i hurt myself & fractured my right foot.. Kinda slow down a lot especially things to do in life.. Everyday learning to be more patient~ Anyway, let's start the story :

" While a man was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand
and hit it many times not realizing
he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers
due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father.....
with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions......
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;
the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely
life & remember this:
Things are to be used and people are to be loved.
The problem in today's world is
that people are used while things are loved.

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
Things are to be used,
People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder.
I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face
it's the only day you'll have before it's over. Take Care ya!!

妻子的空位 (The Irreplaceable Void)

是一篇很值得分享的故事

A story worth sharing

我的妻子因為意外事故離開我身邊已經四年了，我想，妻子留下不會做任何家事的我和孩子，她的心有何等難過呢？ 我也因為無法兼顧父母雙親的角色而感到挫折。有一天我為了出差，清晨趕出門，無法將孩子打點好就得離開家，正巧前一天有剩下的飯，我熱了蒸蛋，向還沒有睡醒的孩子交代一聲，就出門去了。

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

為了照顧好孩子飲食三餐的事，我也無力把自己的工作做好。 有 一天晚上回到家，我只是很簡短地和孩子打個招呼，就因為身體疲累，不想吃晚餐，脫掉西裝之後就直接往床上躺下。就在那個時候，砰的一聲，紅色的湯汁跟泡麵 瞬時弄髒了床單和被單，原來有碗泡麵在棉被裡！這小子真是的，說時遲那時快，我即時拿起一個衣架，跑出去，往正玩著玩具的兒子的屁股就打，因為我實在是太 生氣了，所以不停地打他。但就在這個時候，他邊啜泣邊說了一段話，使我停了下來。

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all I heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bed sheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

兒子告訴我說：「飯鍋裡的飯早上已經吃完了，晚餐在幼稚園吃了，但是到了晚上，爸爸還不回來，我就在櫥櫃的抽屜裡找到了泡麵。可是我想到爸 爸說不能亂動瓦斯爐，所以我就打開洗澡的水龍頭，用熱水泡了泡麵，一個自己吃，另一個想留給爸爸吃。因為怕泡麵涼掉，所以我就把它放在棉被裡，等你回來。 可是因為我正在玩向朋友借來的玩具，所以忘了跟爸爸講。」

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

我不想讓兒子看到我在流淚，所以衝到洗手間，將水龍頭打開，大聲地哭。過了一陣子之後，我打起精神來，一面哄著兒子，一面也在他屁股上擦 藥，讓他上床睡覺。當我清理好泡麵弄髒的床單和棉被後，打開兒子的房門一看，發現他仍舊發出哭泣聲，手裡還拿著媽媽的照片。我把頭靠在房門站了許久，看著 這一幕。

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.




自從在一年前發生這件事之後，我為了扮演好媽媽的角色，更加用心地去照顧他。現在兒子快七歲了，不久後就要從幼稚園畢業，進入國小讀書。慶幸的是，兒子在這段時間毫無陰影，很開朗地成長。

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

就在不久前，我再一次打孩子，因為幼稚園來電話說，兒子沒有去學校，我心裡覺得很不安，所以早退回家，在整個社區裡大聲地喊他的名字，卻是遍尋不著。後來在文具店的門?f，看見他站在電玩的前面，於是我很生氣，又開始一直打他。兒子並沒有說出任何的解釋，只說了聲對不起。後來我才知道，原來剛好是幼稚園要邀請媽媽去看才藝表演的日子。

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....



發生這些事的幾天後，兒子回家說，他在幼稚園裡學了寫字，從此他經常關在自己的房間裡不出來，很認真地寫字。我看到兒子這個樣子，想到妻子在天國也一定會因為看到他這樣而微笑，我就無法忍住淚水。

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

時間很快，又過了一年，到了冬天，街頭上都在播放著聖誕節的歌曲，我的兒子卻又闖了一個禍。我正要下班的時候，接到一通社區郵局的電話，說 我兒子把一綑沒有寫地址的信，惡作劇地放在郵筒裡。每年到了年底，正是郵局最忙碌的時候，所以這對他們造成很大的困擾。雖然我已決定不再打孩子，但在急忙 趕回家後，叫了兒子來，我又忍不住痛打他一頓。兒子這一次只是說他做錯了，卻沒有講出任何理由。我把他推到一個角落，不管了，自個兒跑到郵局領回那一綑惡 作劇的信。我把信丟到他眼前說：「你為什麼要這樣惡作劇？」兒子哭著回答說：「這些信是我要寄給媽媽的。」

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

當時我的眼眶紅了起來，心裡很激動，但是因為在兒子面前，所以我盡量隱忍住沒有表現出來。我接著問他：「那麼，為什麼一次寄這麼多信呢？」 兒子回答說：「以前我要把信投進去的時候，因為個兒太矮，所以沒辦法投入，但是最近我再去郵筒時，已經搆得到了，所以我就把以前沒有寄的，一次全部都投進 入了。」

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

我聽了以後，心中一片茫然，不知道該對孩子說什麼話。過了不久以後，我就跟他說：「媽媽現在在天上，以後你寫完信，把信燒了，就能送到天國去。」等孩子睡著之後，我到外面燒了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟媽媽說些什麼，所以讀了其中的幾封信。

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say......

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

而當中有一封信攪動了我的心。

And one of the letters broke my heart....

親愛的媽媽：
我很想念你！媽媽，今天在幼稚園有才藝表演，但是因為我沒有媽媽，所以沒有去參加，我也沒有告訴爸爸，怕爸爸會想念媽媽。爸爸到處去找我， 但我為了讓爸爸看到我很開心的樣子，所以故意坐在電動玩具面前，雖然爸爸罵我，但是我到最後也沒有告訴他原因。媽媽，我每天都看到爸爸因為想念媽媽而哭 泣，我想爸爸也跟我一樣，很想念媽媽吧！但是，媽，我現在已經記不清楚你的臉。媽媽，請你讓我在夢中，再一次能夠看到你的臉，好嗎？聽說把想念的人的照片 放在懷裡睡覺，就會夢到那個人。可是，媽媽，為什麼你沒有出現在我的夢裡呢？」

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven’t you appear?


讀完這封信以後，我就開始嚎啕大哭。到底什麼時候，我才能填補妻子的空位呢？

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....




給 已經結婚的女同事：

不要加太多班，工作做不完，一定是公司的某些地方出問題了，一定要將問題反應給妳的老闆，一直加班也不見的有用的，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝。

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.



給 已經結婚的男同事：

不要喝太多酒，不要抽太多煙，請問我們的生意，我們的客戶，有比我們的身體重要嗎？
一定要想一想，有沒有辦法做到客人非我們不行，我們的差異化在哪裡，我們是否真的懂客人的心，這比拼命喝酒，還重要，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝和你的愛人。

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.



給 還沒有結婚的男同事和女同事：

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.
美其實是從愛自己的身體開始 --（蔣勳，身體美學）。
無入而不自得 -- （孔子）。

妳/你們一定要很自在，工作才能做的好，如果工作讓你/妳們的心情做的很辛苦，代表的是我們的公司不夠聰明，那也是公司什麼地方不對了，要勇敢的說出來，不要讓不聰明的工作與老闆，傷害了妳/你們的身體。

Take Care, my dear friends, Families & Blog Visitors...

7 Don'tS After A Meal ^.^

1 . Don't SMOKE
Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after meail is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes ( Chances of cancer is higher).

2. Don't eat fruits immediately.
Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause stomach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hour after meal or 1 hour before meal.

3. Don't drink tea.
Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will cause the protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

4. Don't loosen your belt.
Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to be twisted and blocked.

5. Don't bathe.
Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the stomach wil therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

6. Don't walk about.
People always say that after a meal, walk a hundred steps and you will love till 99. IN actual fact, this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

7. Don't Sleep Immediately.
The food we intake will not be able to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

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Apricots	Combats cancer	Controls blood pressure	Saves your eyesight	Shields against Alzheimer's	Slows aging process
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Bananas	Protects your heart	Quiets a cough	Strengthens bones	Controls blood pressure	Blocks diarrhea
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Beets	Controls blood pressure	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones	Protects your heart	Aids weight loss
Blueberries	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Stabilizes blood sugar	Boosts memory	Prevents constipation
Broccoli	Strengthens bones	Saves eyesight	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure
Cabbage	Combats cancer	Prevents constipation	Promotes weight loss	Protects your heart	Helps hemorrhoids
Cantaloupe	Saves eyesight	Controls blood pressure	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	Supports immune system
Carrots	Saves eyesight	Protects your heart	Prevents constipation	Combats cancer	Promotes weight loss
Cauliflower	Protects against Prostate Cancer	Combats Breast Cancer	Strengthens bones	Banishes bruises	Guards against heart disease
Cherries	Protects your heart	Combats Cancer	Ends insomnia	Slows aging process	Shields against Alzheimer's
Chestnuts	Promotes weight loss	Protects your heart	Lowers cholesterol	Combats Cancer	Controls blood pressure
Chili peppers	Aids digestion	Soothes sore throat	Clears sinuses	Combats Cancer	Boosts immune system
Figs	Promotes weight loss	Helps stops strokes	Lowers cholesterol	Combats Cancer	Controls blood pressure
Fish	Protects your heart	Boosts memory	Protects your heart	Combats Cancer	Supports immune system
Flax	Aids digestion	Battles diabetes	Protects your heart	Improves mental health	Boosts immune system
Garlic	Lowers cholesterol	Controls blood pressure	Combats cancer	kills bacteria	Fights fungus
Grapefruit	Protects against heart attacks	Promotes Weight loss	Helps stops strokes	Combats Prostate Cancer	Lowers cholesterol
Grapes	saves eyesight	Conquers kidney stones	Combats cancer	Enhances blood flow	Protects your heart
Green tea	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Helps stops strokes	Promotes Weight loss	Kills bacteria
Honey	Heals wounds	Aids digestion	Guards against ulcers	Increases energy	Fights allergies
Lemons	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure	Smoothes skin	Stops scurvy
Limes	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Controls blood pressure	Smoothes skin	Stops scurvy
Mangoes	Combats cancer	Boosts memory	Regulates thyroid	aids digestion	Shields against Alzheimer's
Mushrooms	Controls blood pressure	Lowers cholesterol	Kills bacteria	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones
Oats	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	Battles diabetes	prevents constipation	Smoothes skin
Olive oil	Protects your heart	Promotes Weight loss	Combats cancer	Battles diabetes	Smoothes skin
Onions	Reduce risk of heart attack	Combats cancer	Kills bacteria	Lowers cholesterol	Fights fungus
Oranges	Supports immune systems	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	Straightens respiration
Peaches	prevents constipation	Combats cancer	Helps stops strokes	aids digestion	Helps hemorrhoids
Peanuts	Protects against heart disease	Promotes Weight loss	Combats Prostate Cancer	Lowers cholesterol	Aggravates Diverticulitis
Pineapple	Strengthens bones	Relieves colds	Aids digestion	Dissolves warts	Blocks diarrhea
Prunes	Slows aging process	prevents constipation	boosts memory	Lowers cholesterol	Protects against heart disease
Rice	Protects your heart	Battles diabetes	Conquers kidney stones	Combats cancer	Helps stops strokes
Strawberries	Combats cancer	Protects your heart	boosts memory	Calms stress
Sweet potatoes	Saves your eyesight	Lifts mood	Combats cancer	Strengthens bones
Tomatoes	Protects prostate	Combats cancer	Lowers cholesterol	Protects your heart
= Walnuts	Lowers cholesterol	Combats cancer	boosts memory	Lifts mood	Protects against heart disease
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Watermelon	Protects prostate	Promotes Weight loss	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	Controls blood pressure
Wheat germ	Combats Colon Cancer	prevents constipation	Lowers cholesterol	Helps stops strokes	improves digestion
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An Article of Marriage & Divorce : forward by my Brother

This is a forward email by my brother, surprisingly. When I initially started reading, i felt sad. I ask myself, What is marriage? a commitment from both person, a couple. but why DIVORCE? around ping, I see happy marriage examples, such as my beloved parents.. BUT i also seen broken marriage examples~ From there i start to understand, life is imperfect, a lifetime is very LONG, but also very short. Many ups and down.. For ping, it's very short. I don't know how long can ping live~ we always think we have many many years to live and wait for another day to do something.. So ping start to have the habit of becoming fast, rushing & still rushing.. UNTIL recently ping rushing again, and end up losing my ipHone, fell down in the middle of the road & injured myself..

It is my dear who tell ping; Result or Last episode is not everything, most important is the journey that we walk together. Sometimes when a couple walk together for a long time, they start to take thing granted from each other.. The moral value of this article below is we must always appreciate & thankful to our beloved ones.
Dear, I will try my best to take care of myself and my foot in the coming one month's time, because it's our lifetime moment. We can always have party, friends event but it's not life and death to rush about.. however, Without my foot, ping cant even walk to you. Anyway many crap from ping d liao.. Let's start the article :

Once upon a Time, .... When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.
I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: 'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are

You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.

心里的快乐, 应该是来自平静的心..

Tonight ping had a deep talk with my dear, on the way back from gathering.. Dunno how it started, but after talked out, ping feel so much better.. So glad & happy that dear is beside ping when i try to face out problem in my heart.. When ping hug dear, i can feel dear's positive energy strength & belief in our future, which pulls ping out from losing myself.. Since April, ping fall into deep depression & face a lot of uncertainty. Ping become very insecure, cant cope with stress, loneliness & try to rebel.. Dear said, We are not god, we dunno & also wont know what will happen in future/ next minute.. He also unsure whether his future is bright or dark.. I can see dear put a lot of responsibility on his shoulder when we decide to hold each others hand & walk this journey together...

Life = Ups & Down.. This fact, ping know in heart.. But i also believe if there is a will, there is a way~ The day when i decide to open my heart, Ping want to bring happiness for him.. Dear encourage ping, not to keep find excuses or blame others for own greediness and failure.. When i know how to 放下心中的贪念, 知足 then ping will be more 快乐... sometimes OFTEN, I might find it very hard... but dear is right, this is a process journey, patient & steady is what ping need...是 ping 不够努力.. that's why 恐惧不安 is always in heart~

心里的快乐, 应该是来自平静的心..

Ping is super happy that this year ping is able to celebrate dear's birthday together.. We have been together, soon gonna 4 years liao.. Really appreciate dear to be very patient with my emotional tempered & bad habbits.. Although ping's cake is not perfect.. haha should say it's too sweet & out of shape.. ^.^

HOWEVER today, ping finally know how to find peace in my heart d.. Thanks, my dear~ Love you always...

Kite Flying 2009.09.12

This post, ping want to introduce my blog visitor : Kite Flying.. Honestly after my experience, my advice is when there is no wind, best not to go for kite flying.. Because it will feels like you are pulling or running with the kite.. Not FLYING.. an idiot activity that ping did yesterday -->
Say Cheese.. This is Liu Sheng.. hehe my dear is the photographer~~ ^.^poor fella...
See--> dont you think ping run like an idiot??
Stupiak kite & Stupiak ping.. :P
Now see the expert--> Fook Ming :P the yellow shirt near the yellow car...
hehe Too bad.. No wind yesterday~ :P
Anyway it is really really fun & relaxing.. Ping is so happy to be away from stress & worry.. ^.^ After that ping also went to pasar malam & mamak !!! really miss hang out ler...

The story of Eagle..

Never knew that Eagles have such a story~ I always feel that eagles are the type of very lonely animals... They often fly alone~ Din know they have to go through such a tough change to re-birth.. I guess we as human is more lucky~ YET we are very greedy.. haha~~ Anyway ping is now reading a book, titled : " Don't Argue, no matter what !~" will give my response after reading..

Souverign Hill Trip

^.^ finally posted all of the souverign photos.. Took ping quite some time, as ping normally write my blog during my lunch hour.. Anyway this week, ping wan to introduce Souverign Hill to my blog visitor.. Ping went with my dearest mom, was hoping to so many many gold...
We took Vline country train line in the morning, departing at 9.08am..Platform 8A
Here it comes~ ^.^
Honestly PING REALLY REALLY love this vline train.. this is my first time praising a train !!!! it is so so comfortable, & when it runs, it doesn't feel like the train is moving at all... Sounds weird right?
Say Cheese !!! Yeah~
This is.. Part of the Souverign Hill scene..
Some kids trying to dig gold?? You must be kidding..

Mommy toi, are you trying to dig gold?? But i only saw Mud water & sand~ -.-"
I start to look my kitchen when i see this miserable pot that they use in those days..
Invest in puddling machine?? Are you interested??

haha Let ping introduce --> this is Boar.. when i showed my dear, he said it looks like my mom & I.. KNS~ anyway ping tagged one of it as him in facebook.. Haha~~ don't you agree with ping??
Trying to imagine how's the lifestyle during those age? or is it still happening in the world??
Mom, Marcus & ping.. such an coincidence, ping met my ex-school mate.. Actually knew him since primary school.. He is really a brilliant student.. Now currently in Brisbane studying~~
Really happy to see him after the year we graduate in Kwang Hua.. Must plan trip to go visit him next year hopefully d...
Some of the scenary in Souverign Hill..

Theatre~ Real person, real voice.. If anyone of you happens to visit Australia, one thing that you should never miss is Theatre.. It is really worth while to watch & experience..
Old Tavern bar..


Melting Gold session~
Cool.. look at how shining the gold is when it is melted...
Gold bar~ worth of ??? million ?? but it so looks like fake..
Ice Sculpture Display in the park..
I wonder how come ping still decides to go in, where inside is cold like hell.. shivering~




Manufacturer factory




Old Style Wooden Bowling Ball~
Old Style Bowling Alley



Army :P

I like this guy the most.. But he seems to be very fierce hor??









Lastly, time to say goodbye lor.. ^.^ Yeah~~ had fun in Souverign Hill...

Damn Stress~

Damn stress...is the only two words that i can think of now.. Recently ping has been busy working overtime.. Kinda really make my life a bit upside down~ & then i feel myself very unhealthy... No time for friends, No time to do my stuff, No time to follow up my bills & accounts, No time to plan for my travel, No time to follow up my postgrad issues, No time to look for new place to stay.. All sitting there waiting to solve.. It feels like shit, honestly~

Everynight when come back from OT, i kinda watch drama or play RC to destress and withdraw myself from work.. I just feel like wan to relax myself after work~

Anyway becoz of working overtime lately, ping has been eating irregular as well... Argh, it feels even more unhealthy because ping don even time to go exercise or play some games. Not that i dont want to.. I know it probably sounds like giving excuses.. haha~

I know i shouldn't be complaining about working OT.. Wat ping actually complaining is about myself.. Ping did not find a good solution to face this working OT problem.. It adds more stress when deadlines are nearer.. Because from the start i din face the issues, it now just got worsen...

I think my owe myself happiness & healthy.. I should do something~ >_< before ping rottens.. Mind is so blur~ I promise myself.. I will calm down & try to fix my life... One by one at a time~~

Dinner @ Sushi Burger :P

After yesterday's stressful & tired day.. Ping went back home, talked & see dear.. Ping felt so so much better.. After that, ping had a very good sleep because too tired already~ Happy to see my dear.. Find my energy level got replenish again~

Anyway this is a post from July :P haha~ forget the exact date already.. It was an dinner outing with two of my best Melbourne Friend, Rainie & Candy~ It was straight after work.. Ping looked sleepy & tired~ I still remember i was working late the night before...
My dear Friend --> Rainie
My dear Friend --> Candy
Argh, it has been really really a LONG LONG time that three of us didn't went out together...I eman just three of us~ Reminds ping the days during 1st year, when we were happily still discussing how to diet :P
Guess what? we are still the same weight~ :P Ping still chubby~ still the same look..
Friendship Forever.. Although we are now apart, but i believe friendship is forever in our heart and will not makes our friendship fades..
Haha~ imagine we are quarelling.. Don't worry, that is just a pose~
Fried Octopus Ball.. yummy~
Yeah, the food has come !!!
The famous of the shop --> Sushi Burger!!! delicious :P

Max Brener @ Melbourne Central--Choc Drink YumCha

2009.07.02
Yahoo~~ My best friend CANDY, CAME BACK Melbourne for a short holiday.. Honestly Ping miss her so so much~ Really happy tat we are able to see each other again since January..
How come her face still so COOL de.. haha must be tired after a long flight from Hong Kong.. but EYES still so big..
Three Cameras at the same time.. How come our pose still remains the same de... My favorite Pose 'V' Yeah~ :D Ping tired d liao la.. after a long day of working..
The Girls :P Candy, Ping, Vera & JoJo
Hey don curi snap ler.. Yor~~ ping very chubby face ler.. Our drinks have arrived.. Mine is Mocha Frappe.. hehe Winter so cold d liao, ping still drink cold choc frappe... freezing~The Sweet Couple --> Khairul & Yui
Here comes the Light Bulb--> Ping..
Ping's Notty Face ~~ Yui's Ultraman?? Khairul's uncle Face~~
Gonna miss Yui as well.. She has now gone to UK, to further her Master d~ Take care, my fren..
Really very happy to see them.. It has been since a long time~ 6months after we graduated.. Time really flies.. Hope we will see each other again~

A bear, a lion and a pig meet...........‏

When a bear, a lion, and a pig met;
Bear said :
" If I roar in the forest, the entire forest shivers with fear."
Lion said :
" If I roar in the jungle, the entire jungle is afraid of me."
Pig said:
"No Big deal... I only need to have flu, and the entire planet lives in fear."

Hehe~~ Very cute de Joke, rite?? Just want to share with my blog visitors.. & also to remind everyone to Take Care themselves. Eat more Vegetables, Fruits to maintain Balance diet...
Grapes !!! is my daily breakfast~~ :P ping eat a BAGful everyday..
Australia is very famous for it's Granny Smith Green Apple.. An Apple a day, Keeps Doctor away~
Now is also cherry season.. Ping actually doesn't like to eat cherry, Until One day, I found out that cherry is so sweet & tasty~~
STRAWBERRY !!!! my favorite, when it is sweet & together with Chocolate...
Orange is also one of my daily nutrition.. Full with Vitamin C and helps to digest all the junk tat i eat~ ^.^

2nd Time Puffing Billy Trip

2009.07.05
hehe This is ping's 2nd trip to Puffing Billy at Belgrave. Although it's the 2nd time, but ping still very excited !!! Becoz this time Ping becomes the tour guide, bringing my mom around ^.^
Ops.. Ping is still brushing teeth.. The sun just came out~ Early Morning.. eyes still half closed~In the Lif~ Ready to go...Say Cheese!!!
A lot of ppl says ping & my mom really looks alike.. Really?? What i know of is we are SIMILIAR HEIGHT.. & SIMILIAR taste~ which my dear says is TWO version of ping; One old, One young~
Freezing Cold, waiting at the platform to Belgrave..
My hair seems to grow long already~ :P
haha !!! tat scarf is ping's de.. I borrow my mom to wear~ Makes her Looks young, rite??
haha~ Did anyone found something fishy about this photo?? Mcdonald paper bag~~ Our breakfast...
We are now on the Connex Train d liao..
Very very excited~
Switch !!! we are now on the puffing Billy Train d liao.. Faster reserve a good seat to watch the scenery later...
Here it comes~~ the 'Head' of the train.. Really looks a toy instead...

Mommy toi, What are you looking at??
Hey, LOOK HERE !! :P
Journey Starts~~
hehe Mommy toi & Ping's shoe~
Honestly this train actually looks alike with the Harry Potter train.. Similiar style~~
Yeah !!! hope my mom does enjoy.. Although it is freezing cold..
BEST Scenary... Amongst all the scenery that ping saw along the road, This is the perfect & also my favourite :P
hehe Time to Get off lor.. Still sitting there?? :P Taking photos for memory...
haha Ping's turn !!!! but it looks weird with no one in it rite?
Anyway it is really a nice journey trip & also experience~ However, my advice is REMEMBER to wear sun Glasses or avoid wearing Contact lens if you intend to sit along the train rail..

Celebrate Ah Bor's Birthday

hehe~ This is actually a very late post.. :P Sorry, my dear friend Ah Bor.. His Birthday is actually JUNE 22nd.. and today is already 23rd JULY -.-" no choice la.. ping very busy.. photo sitting in desktop for quite some time d.. Finally tonight no need to work OT... June 22nd falls on a Monday, so ping celebrate with him on 21st Sunday night instead... We went to White Tomato along Bourke Street, a Korean BBQ restaurant~~
^.^ BBQ Time... Super Lot of meat ler.. Two of us end up taking away~ 4 types of MEAT.. eat meat, become MEATY liao..
The Birthday Boy--> Ah Bor :P
hehe Balloon in his room~~ Happy Birthday !!!
Ah Bor & Ping...
Argh, my camera flash too bright d.. haha or is it too late d liao?? time to bed??
Of Course No~~ Let's see whose eyes is bigger?? It's ah Bor ler..
Anyway, Really happy to have Ah Bor as my friend.. So fast 1 year pass by d, Ping still rem last year, i also went to his birthday party with my dear.. also BBQ night at Swinburne hostel.. Time really flies rite?? Miss uni days...

Present ^.^

Just want to share with my blog visitors this Meaningful Slide.. It's title is Present~~ ^.^ It's really nice & touching.. Worthwhile to read & remember in heart.. So ngam my dear's blog is also called as present Box.. Anyway, hope you like it~~ :P